Got Expert's Advice
Nov 17, 2021
I feel guilty for marrying my young sister's husband. I am a homebreaker. I can't forgive myself. It was life spoiling.
In Relationships & Family
I am 39 , home maker. After my divorce in 2015 I started staying with my parents. I quit my job as I was unable to manage legal, family, job and my emotions. My sister and brother in law were very caring during this time. My brother in law and myself grew closer as he was also having trouble in his marriage which I was completely unaware about until now. We struck a common cord. I love my sister and have always been protective about her but in this case I found my BIL to be right. My sister is a bit hot headed. I did feel bad that my sister didn't share her marriage woes with me. Later I came to know she did share it with her friends and a bit with our mother. In 2018 , my sister and my parents came to know about the relationship . Everyone was deeply hurt and furious. We decided to end the relationship. We didn't talk to each other in 2019 and it was the most misearble time of my life , worst than what I went through during my divorce. We could not live like that , resumed talking to each other in lockdown and got married in a temple 4 months later. Out families cut ties with us and we started living separately. It has been 1 year now . Problems started erupting within 4 months , he is not the same person anymore. He insults me , orders me , yells too much and says both sisters are same . He says , the problem is in my blood , both my sister and me are without values and have spoilt his life. I am losing feelings for him, it looks like deja vu and reminds me of my 1st marriage. I feel horrible for doing this to my sister. We have not been on talking terms for 3 years now. There is no way I can get her back , she feels betrayed. My parents do not treat me well either and disrespect me as they feel I have brought shame to them. This is decision of mine has destroyed lives , I wish I could take it back. It is a dead end.